Wednesday, March 26, 2008
Crayons Cost a Dollar; Children are Priceless
Not all adults treat children kindly. I learned this cheerless nugget of information before I mastered tying my shoes. The event took place during a play date at my neighbor’s home. The Dijon shag carpet scratched my knees as I leaned over and enthusiastically accepted Adam’s invitation to a coloring contest show down. With a carnation pink crayon clutched in my fist, I pressed the dyed wax against paper and vigorously shook my writs. Snap. The crayon didn’t bode well against my childish fervor. The green crayon snapped next, and then the orange. Adam’s father was incensed.
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What a poignant post; my heart breaks for your crayon incident. I too pray that my boys' friends are welcome here, knowing as you do that some require a little more grace than others!
Although my mom would say that I complain often when the entire neighborhood is over our house, eating our snacks, and drinking our juice bags, but truly, I would rather have everyone here than any where else.
That was a wonderful post. Some kids do require more patience, but your story points how very vividly what happens in our childhood can stay with us the rest of our life and I for one want to be a positive memory in the childrens' lives who visit our home.
My heart broke when I read your post. Couldn't agree more with Melanie's comment above. Lord, help us to remember the power behind our words and actions to our kids (and their friends), and may we show an extra measure of grace when we need to.
Blessings,
Tracy
Really beautifully written! It makes me sad to think about what life must have been like for your little neighbor boy, with a dad like that. And, a great reminder for me...my 5 year old is having a friend over tomorrow! I'm determined to make this the "best place to be" so that they want to hang out here when they're older...much easier for me to keep tabs that way. Thank you!
How sad to think of that poor man who treated you unkindly. What a prison he must live in.
Thanks for sharing this story, and for the encouragement!!
Blessings,
Joy
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Thanks for sharing your story ...
I pray that when small children visit our home that they remember love and fun. It is easy sometimes to forget that not everyone knows how to do things and we should try to teach with a kind word oppose to wrath.
Great post!
Ohhh - I wanted to cry!! What a horrible memory, and yet, in a way, a great one as you have a very clear image of what you do not want to be!!
I am surprised that that father actually spanked you. And then the mother shuffling you off quickly. Makes me worry what that father did to his own kids in private.
I also am happy to have the friends here rather than have my kids in environments I can't monitor. I know that I may lose it and scream (even over admittedly dumb stuff, work in progress here), but I also know I'll leave the room before hurting physically.
Also think that if there's anything we don't want the kids to break, it should be put away where they can't reach. And crayons were made to be broken.
What a powerful story! And it is so interesting that you remember the smells and all the details, but not the pain. I too have similar memories of my childhood which brings me to my own children and what they will remember.
We just finished a class at our church on the book, "Shepherding a Child's Heart". I read the book ten years ago, but I have found myself again re-evaluating what truly is important and what are truly heart matters.
thank you for finding me! i love your blog as well and look forward to coming back to read more of your insightful, honest posts. you are a very gifted writer.
Thanks for sharing your heart on your blog and for visiting mine. Your post reminds us how precious children really are.
Isn't it amazing how these shameful events that happen when we're young stay with us?
I would hate to think that I ever caused a neighbour child pain. Hang out over here! I want to be a safe place, too.
Thanks for making me think! I've got kids over right now. Maybe I'd better go downstairs and make them a snack...
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You are so eloquent. This post is so well written.
I would have been totally crushed if that man had spanked me. And over crayons no less. PUH-LEASE!!
Thanks for promoting kindness to our children...
Oh my - I can only imagine how that day felt to you. How awful. You are such a great writer. Thank you so much for sharing your past. It is so evident that all we have experienced in the past is what shapes is into what we are today. Hugs and Kisses to you all!!
When is it that we start treating children as pains in the neck? I remember my "crayon" incidents, too. Mine was with a twinkie. Ever the scientist, I wanted to see what happened when I squeezed the guts out. Bad move on my part, I guess. After the divorce, my mom bought me a box of twinkies to squeeze away.
Thanks for a reminder that those little minds and sticky fingers are our future and we have a heavy responsibility to love, love, love them.
What a powerful post this is. You have really touched me with this story and I am heartbroken for the child that endured such cruelty.
As I sat here reading, I very clearly remembered an incident of my own. I was in first grade and visiting a friends house. Her mother was getting us ready to go outside and I accidentally stepped on her winter coat. Her mother yelled at me very harshly and brought me to tears. I could feel that large lump growing in my throat.
After years of verbal abuse from my father and other people in my life, that incident on my friend's stairs is more clear and fresh to me now, than all the other abuses later in my life.
Thanks so much for sharing this. It meant a lot.
Your writing is so beautiful, so stirring to the heart.
You did not deserve to be treated like that. It was wrong. You did nothing wrong. I am so sorry that the little you got hurt like that.
I wish I could say that I was always a cheerful greeter to my children's neighborhood friends, but some days it's all I could do to fake a smile and keep my cool, but I try. It's especially hard when you see the world's influence coming into your door.
But those are the ones Jesus went to right?
Thanks for sharing your heart and stopping by my blog.
Julie
Just read this one too. Great post and well said. I can't imagine the odacity to spank someone else's child- OVER CRAYONS, no less!
I had a similar incident. I was tickled and I accidently kicked someone's ankle who had broken it in years past. I was slapped for my offense!
He was in chronic pain with it and had pins put in during surgery. He was an uncle that I still love dearly to this day. I hated that day! I was crushed.
Thank you for this post. It made me sad, but it was good. I'm glad you wrote it!
Jaime
Hospitality is my job, but I tend to see it as an outward thing and the Lord is teaching me it's an at home thing first. Even typing that I'm reminded that hospitality is "kindess to a stranger", but what about when I'm kinder to a stranger than to my husband or children...ouch!
That's an excellent point, Mari
Wow. I can't believe someone would do that over crayons. And to someone else's child! I'm so sorry you had to experience that.
Just stopped by your site. Thank you for sharing this memory. Little people are people with complete brains and all five senses....and more!
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