White sand. Florida Sunshine. Ocean breeze. I (hopefully) am enjoying all three of those luxuries today and for the rest of the week. While I'm away, I lined up a few guest writers.
Today's special guest is Wifey from Ask Wifey. I wish I could have seen her face when she first read my request asking her to write a guest blog post about sex.
I asked her to write about sex for two reasons. (1) She writes a weekly column about sex, so I knew she wouldn't be shy. (2) Sex is a beautiful part of a healthy Christian marriage.
I hope you enjoy her perspective. Angela
(P.S. I promise you I did not pay her to write all those nice things about me)
Marriage: The Bedroom and The Bible
When Angela asked me to write a guest post for Becoming Me I was thrilled as it’s one of my favorite reads, but when I saw the topic she wanted me to write about I must say I was a little shocked.
That’s right; one of my favorite Christian bloggers asked me to write a sex post. Hmm. Not being a Christian blogger myself (I am a Christian, my blog is just not religious themed) you might see how this made me a little uneasy. She anticipated my initial reaction and assured me that it was appropriate and that she would like for me to share my thoughts on sex in marriage and how God intended it to be wonderful, not a thing of shame.
That’s why Angela is who she is – insightful, inspiring, thought-provoking, and forward-thinking. And that’s why I continually read Becoming Me, because her posts give me a daily dose of spiritual juice and help me look at things through a new lens.
And, of course, she is right; sex in marriage was intended to be wonderful and not a thing of shame. A few years ago I wrote an article for Upscale magazine (Feb 2007) titled, “Sex in the Scriptures: Does the Bible Belong in a Married Couple’s Bedroom?” While researching the piece I spoke to several clergy members and professors about their thoughts on sex and marriage and questioned if it was purely for procreation. I gladly received a resounding “no.”
In the article Father Ricardo Bailey, Parochial Vicar at Holy Spirit Catholic Church in Atlanta explained, “Sex in and of its self is intended to be a gift that each person brings to the conjugal act of marriage, but sex is also God’s gift to us to express our love to one another. When it’s done in the way that God intended it, which is from what the church teaches us in and through the sacrament of matrimony, then it can be a source of pleasure and enjoyment.”
Sex is such a touchy subject – literally – however it’s such an important part of a healthy marriage. Understanding and embracing that, and nurturing your sex life is critical to your relationship with your spouse. Sex should not be forgotten, forbidden or taken for granted.
1 Corinthians 7:4-5 says “For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.”
When you can allow yourself to enjoy the pleasure, passion and intimacy of sex with your partner – guilt free – it truly is a wonderful thing.
Winks & Smiles,
You can find Wifey at AskWifey.com and at TheBlogRollers.com. She is the author of “Help! I’m a Newlywed…What Do I Do Now? Wife-Saving Advice Every New Bride Must Know to Survive the First Year of Marriage.”